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Felicia and I celebrated our thirty-third anniversary last week and that prompted me to write this blog, How to stay married a long, long time. I don’t think that thirty-three years is a long, long time. I do however know people whose marriages meet that criteria.
Felicia and I both had grandparents who were married over fifty years before one or the other passed away. Both sets of our parents have celebrated fifty years, and I might as well go ahead and say it, I don’t think that in today’s world thirty-three years is too shabby.
In my last post I told you that the bliss of our dating life lasted about one week into our marriage and then it began. What began? You ask. The process of having to grow up together began and it wasn’t easy.
At seventeen and nineteen, neither one of us had come even close to mature enough to be married. We had different ideas as to what marriage should look like and I must confess to you that even thirty-three years later we still have differences of opinions on that subject. I have come more and more into her corner in agreeing with her. There is saying and I use it just as a point of humor. Men, do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?
In that first year we fought. What did we fight about? EVERYTHING! What happened? That meek, quite little girl who I dated, who never had a different opinion than me suddenly had an opinion and because we are so different it was almost always different from mine and of course I was sure that I was always right. I would also handle her anger by provoking her to even more anger. Doesn’t sound good does it? No! I’m not proud of it. I’m just being painfully honest. Remember I was only nineteen.
I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase, “Opposites Attract.” Felicia and I were and are madly in love but we are very opposite in a lot of ways. Over the thirty-three year marriage we have had to learn how to live with with our differences. We are still madly in love. She is my best friend, my life partner and my everything.
You must know that if anything I’ve written to this point puts her in a bad light it isn’t intentional. I would be the first to admit that in marriage she got the raw end of the deal.
Over the next few post I’m going to tell you how we stay stitched together. How we have stayed married for thirty-three years and will stay married until death separates us.
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