I had a telephone conversation with a pastor friend of mine today. We shared victories and struggles with each other. We discussed the subject of success.
Being a pastor can be fun and rewarding. It can also be an emotionally hard life. I know that if you haven’t done it you don’t understand and I’m not sure that I can find the words to help you understand. You just have to do it for a while.. It’s tough especially if you have vision and are trying to take a church to the next level.
I told him about hearing Andy Stanley on his leadership podcast talking about measuring your success within the reality in which you live. For instance, if you pastor a country church of one hundred people you can’t measure yourself against a pastor who has a thousand people in his city church. If you do, it will drive you insane. So if you are the pastor that church of a hundred, what would success look like? Only you can answer that. What you need to remember is that you are just important in the kingdom as any other leader and that God has something for you to accomplish.
During our conversation my friend, who is almost twenty years younger than me said. “You know Jeff, you have experienced success already that I hope to experience.” What? I wondered even as he was speaking. He went on to say, “you have three grown children and all of them love God, work in the church and are hard working, responsible people.” He said, “to me, that’s success.”
I thanked him for being kind and positive but even as he said it, I knew it was true. Whatever your profession is, if you have children they are your number one job.
I do have three grown children. Adam is thirty and battles some challenges. He lives with his mom and I. He loves God and people. Our oldest daughter Kara is married and just a few weeks ago gave us our first grandchild, Jackson. She and her husband Andrew are devoted Christians. Lauren, the baby will be married tomorrow to Trevor. Trevor is the praise and worship pastor at a church in Florida. He and Lauren are both devoted Christians and hard workers.
My nest is about to be empty but my heart is full. Thank you God for true